Finding My Zero

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I was taking a spin class the other day when the instructor told us all to slow down and find our “zero.” Unwind, take all the pressure off, and just ride. Of course this wasn’t necessarily meant to be symbolic in any way, but to me it was an “aha” moment.

I’m taking this week off before starting my new job on Monday (seriously can’t wait!) and am really trying to use my time off to focus on self care. And not in the “read magazines, do face masks, watch Netflix” kind of way (although that’s great too, trust me!). More so in the “figure out why I’ve been dizzy all the time and schedule a doctor’s appointment for that,” sleep without setting 8 different alarms, and work out nearly every day like I used to kind of way.

I think blogging is funny because most of us come off as 100 percent happy in our posts, when obviously that isn’t the case every day (not an original observation by any means, but something that totally resonates). And while I do consider myself a genuinely happy, upbeat person, I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that these past several months have been insanely stressful in a number of ways. As a result, I developed a number of bad habits physically, felt over-scheduled during the week, and sometimes felt like I didn’t know how to be a supportive friend for someone else. Plus, while blogging was the creative release that I needed, I sometimes got caught up in the comparison game or took things too personally.

However, it’s always easier to recognize these issues after the fact, and now that things are shaping up, I finally am beginning to understand what drives me off the wall as well as what I can do in the moment to make things better.

What got me through the past few months? Chatting with my roommate at the kitchen table in the evenings, getting manicures and champagne with my mom on a random Thursday night, long text conversations and pep talks with a friend, lots of dinners with my parents, cutting out things and people that made me feel negative. Getting back into an exercise routine this week has also been amazing–working out does so much for me physically and mentally, and while getting over to the studio when it’s cold and dark out is less than appealing, it’s so worth it.

I don’t know if there’s really a point to this post other than to show that we’re all normal. Everyone has ups and downs, and I’m thankful I have few days to breathe and take care of myself before starting a new adventure. If you have any tips on how to manage stress, I’m all ears. 🙂

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FRIDAY FEELS, #16

What a whirlwind of a week. I’ve had a lot on my plate lately and am really, really excited for a calm-ish weekend in DC. I have a dentist appointment on Saturday (yuck), so I’m planning on spending Friday night at my parents’ house and catching up with them (they’ve been an amazing support system these past few weeks, and I’m very thankful for their guidance) and then hopefully going out and doing something fun in the city on Saturday night. I spent last weekend in West Virginia attending a Friendsgiving and freezing (ok, it was cold here, too!) and had a blast getting away for a bit, but it was such a short trip (about 36 hours including my 5-hour bus ride each way), which is always sad! Anyway, onto the post…

Bookmarked: Reese Witherspoon’s book recs! I’ve read some of her picks and will file the rest away for whenever I need some new titles. Check it out! Speaking of which, have you entered my giveaway on Instagram? Don’t miss the chance to win six great books!

DC to-do list: I’d love to check out a cidery over Thanksgiving weekend and have heard of a few different ones in the area but wouldn’t mind receiving some recs…let me know if you have a fave spot.

Pinning: The little bar cart shown above! I recently purchased a gold, bamboo-style cart at Miss Pixie’s for a great price and have been having fun moving around various accessories and making it look pretty.

Tackling: I’m excited because this weekend I’m having someone come and do a mini apartment shoot! We’ll just be focusing on my room and maybe the bar cart and some details downstairs, but it’s a start! I’ve been wanting some quality photos to file away for the blog, so I’m looking forward to getting this done. Plus, a shoot = a great excuse to snag some fresh flowers. 😉

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FRIDAY FEELS, #15

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Bookmarked: A somewhat new to me blog, Capitol Vintage Charm. Last Friday, Stacy and I met up for coffee and had a blast chatting about our blogging, thrifting, our careers, and more! She’s truly the sweetest and we have so much in common. I’m so jealous of all of her fun furniture scores, too! Plus, every Friday, she does a round-up of the best Craigslist finds in DC that week (seriously, she’s a girl after my own heart!).

DC to-do list: Going to recommend something here! Last week, a friend and I took a ghost tour in Georgetown (we stopped by Baked & Wired first to snag treats and hot drinks) and had a blast. The tour started out with tons of ghost stories about homes in the area but ended up leaning more to the historical side later on (still interesting, though!). While it was definitely fun going right around Halloween, I’d recommend it for any time of year (and you definitely don’t have to be a tourist to appreciate it, though there were many in our group). It starts at the Old Stone House and wraps up right around Georgetown University and is a great way to learn more about the area and get in some extra steps! Also, speaking of haunted homes in DC, the Post wrote an article about some of these spooky spots (one of which is right in my neighborhood…eek). I’ll be honest that prior to recently I thought ghost tours were just plain creepy and kind of weird and never wanted to take advantage of them, and now I can’t get enough! I’d gotten tons of recommendations about the Edinburgh one when I was studying abroad there and ultimately passed on it (although to be fair, the cemetery and other artifacts are very visible just by walking around the city). Now I’m wishing I’d gone because I’m sure it’s amazing!

Pinning: Lo Bosworth’s home tour (this is an older piece but I’ve constantly pinned images from it, which I always turn to for inspo!). If you like lucite, brick walls, and bright, airy spaces, it’s for you.

Tackling: The notes section of my phone is always full of to-do lists and grocery lists and things that I actually need to get done, but I often keep a list of separate list of fun things I’d like to try, too (products I’d like to look for at Trader Joe’s, shows to check out, books on my wish list, and places to check out in the city). This weekend, I need to prep for the living room redesign I’m helping with (I’m styling the client’s bookshelves on Monday!), plan to relax on Sunday (I’ve had visitors the past two weekends and haven’t spent a ton of time just lounging at home), and hope to start making some headway on a project that I’ll be announcing on here soon! Hope everyone has a fantastic November weekend. 🙂

 

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This and That

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Happpppy Monday! I always enjoy a good personal post and especially love when other bloggers do little Q&As, so here’s one of my own. Chime in with your own answers if you’d like!

Song that always pumps you up: This may seem silly, but it’s been Countdown for the past several years (since I was a junior in college, to be exact!). I think I heard it at just the right time (a particularly insane point in my life/the semester) and it gave me the boost of positivity I needed (thanks, Bey!).

Song that makes you laugh: Ok, this is definitely a nontraditional one, but I’d have to go with Home by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. My sister and I both love it to the point that we’ll randomly text each other, “Jade?” and the other person will always respond with “Alexander!” without a pause, haha. But I remember telling this to a friend another time and she was like, “Uhh, this was my song with my ex boyfriend.” To each their own, hahaha.

Song that never fails to make you cry: Oh gosh. Lately it’s been The Luckiest by Ben Folds. I first heard this song in high school (I think someone sang it at our talent show) and thought it was sweet, but lately it’s made me tear up every. single. time. I think the lyrics can be interpreted in a lot of ways (I love the message about fate/chance), but…omg, sob.

Website that’s your biggest time suck: Honestly for me, it would be Pinterest (follow me here!). I love hopping on there whenever I have some extra time and always leave feeling insanely inspired (and wishing I had time to do a DIY/redecorate my entire home, haha). I think it’s a great site for when you only have a few minutes, because you can easily bookmark items for later and don’t have to worry about emailing yourself links, saving pictures, etc.

Dream road trip destination: It’s embarrassing for me to say this as a DC native, but I actually have never been to Richmond or Charlottesville and would love to make a trip down there soon! It’s easy enough to hop in the car and get to both of these places within a couple of hours, so I just need to coordinate it with someone.

On my DC to do list: Brunch at Le Diplomat! It’s embarrassing to say that I haven’t done this either…but now that it’s right around the corner, I have no excuse! I may have to go there when one of my college friends visits in a few weeks!

Craving: I seriously had a dream the other night that I was in line at CAVA…but honestly any Mediterranean food sounds amaze right now.

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FRIDAY FEELS, #13

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Switching up my format a bit this Friday with a few new categories to keep things exciting around here…(it’s the little things, guys). Hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!

Bookmarked: Check out these ginger jar pumpkins…need I say more? I saw this article on my Facebook news feed of all places and immediately sent it to myself to share on here.

DC to-do list: I need to check out Jeni’s Ice Creams, especially since it’s practically around the corner from me! The flavors look delicious and let’s be real, the spot is v Instagrammable from what I’ve seen. I have friends visiting next weekend and over Halloween, so I’ll likely wait to go there until I have a guest in town!

Pinning: Can someone do my hair like this?

Tackling: We have a big work event this Saturday during the daytime, but otherwise the weekend should be pretty relaxing! My sister is home from college for her fall break, so I’m heading home tonight to see her, and Saturday evening is an engagement party for a couple I know from college (although we actually became friends over the past year in DC, which is kinda cool!). Excited for good company and some cocktails, and Sunday will hopefully be pretty restful!

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Checking In

It’s been awhile since I’ve checked in with some life updates…so here goes!

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1) New apartment: We’re loving the new place, and I finally was able to finish unpacking/styling some things this past weekend. We have great built ins in the living room which makes it easy to store all of our books, but I’ve been struggling with how to style them. We don’t want it to look to library-ish and I’ve drawn some inspiration from Pinterest (see above). I managed to recreate this look a bit but am still not 100 percent in love with it. Any ideas are welcome! This past weekend, I had a few friends over for wine on the roof which was a blast (especially because it’s still insanely warm out), and I’ve loved exploring my new neighborhood and getting into a routine (having a Trader Joe’s just a few blocks away has been a game changer!).

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2) A home tour: Speaking of apartment updates, I discovered this home tour the other day and absolutely love it. It definitely encompasses the look that I’ve been trying to create in my loft area.

3) GNI book club: The Girls Night In book club last Tuesday was wonderful! I loved discussing Anne Helen Petersen’s Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud with an amazing group of women. Everyone was so friendly and had a lot of interesting comments and perspectives (not to mention, wine and donuts were served). I highly recommend signing up for a book club (GNI or otherwise) in your city if you can!

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4) A wish list find: I came across this lidded basket on Amazon the other day and love it! It’s exactly the style that’s super popular right now and doubles as a storage unit, which is always a plus.

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FRIDAY FEELS, #12

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It’s moving weekend, so today’s post is a quick one! I took today off to finish cleaning my apartment, etc, and tomorrow the movers come! I’ll have to admit that I was pretty sad about leaving Georgetown until I found a place I love (and then it became, “Ok, when do I get to move in?!”). I’ve made a lot of fun memories in this apartment and am thankful so many of my friends from various parts of life were able to see it! Can’t wait to make new memories in this place, though–and being right on the metro will make it much easier to see various friends around the city, too.

On my playlist: This catchy jam has been on repeat.

On my nightstand: Still working on last week’s book, but it’s so interesting and is one I’d definitely recommend picking up if you have the chance. It’s been a slow reading month for me with the move and weekend work, but I’m enjoying being able to read when I can!

On my mind: So much to do…but I’m excited for some of the posts I have coming up next week! Anything in particular you’d like to see later this month?

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On my wish list: How cute is this striped weekender from LLBean? It’s so preppy and classic but looks extremely functional, too (wouldn’t expect anything less from them!).

On the agenda: Basically, unpacking and more unpacking…and hopefully celebrating/exploring the new neighborhood a bit on Sunday! A good friend from college will be in town for work on Monday, so we’re grabbing Mexican food and margs for dinner. Can’t wait to see her! Then Tuesday is the GNI book club (so I better finish reading before then!). Happy weekend, everybody!

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FRIDAY FEELS, #11

Bye, Georgetown!
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On my playlist: Ok, so I went down a rabbit hole the other day and discovered this website which lists every song played in every episode of Grey’s Anatomy (you’re welcome). Also, the descriptions of each scene are pretty hilarious and only slightly biased. 😉

On my nightstand: I started this book and it’s a bit different than what I was expecting, but a good read so far. I probably won’t get a ton of fun reading done in September, though, because the move is taking up most of my spare time (and 95 percent of my books are packed away in boxes!). I also ordered this book for the Girls Night In Washington, DC, book club meet up–but I’d been wanting to read it anyway, because I LOVE Anne Helen Petersen (post for another day, though!). I can’t wait for it to arrive, as it definitely appeals to the soc major in me.

On my mind: I was so thrilled when I realized that “Big Little Lies” was available on Amazon (I don’t have HBO, so I watched the first episode when it came out and then had to abandon the series after my free trial ended!). I love Reese Witherspoon–who doesn’t–and the show is keeping me intrigued! It’s making me want to re-read the book again when I’m done, because it’s been a couple of years.

On my wish list: Carrie and I have been busy picking up lots of fun stuff for the apartment. I need to hold off on getting anything more for now, but I’m really excited about what’s arrived so far. I do want to possibly order a chandelier at some point!

On the agenda: Packing, working, and some Friday/Saturday evening fun…the usual! My mom is coming to Georgetown for bunch and packing on Saturday, so it’ll be nice to do something fun in the neighborhood on my last weekend here (yes, I realize I sound like I’m moving 2 hours away, not 2 miles!). I can’t believe that in one week I’ll be unloading the first boxes in my new place! It’s been fun to have a little input on the actual apartment this week, too! They’re going to be building a door to my room and adding a window to that wall, I’ve gotten to give some design input along the way. 😉 It’s awesome that the owner is willing to make some upgrades for us, because the building is actually registered as a historic property, which has me geeking out and wanting to know everything about the socialite who lived there long ago and had the whole building to herself. On the whole building/decorating note, does anyone have tips for hanging artwork on brick? I ordered some “brick clips” on Amazon that are supposed to do the trick without leaving any residue, but I’d love to hear a success story or two!

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7 Weird Facts About Me

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I love when other bloggers do these posts, so I figured I’d try my hand at one…without further ado, here we go!

  1. My prime time for productivity is probably from 9 or 9:30 am until 1 pm or so. I have the most energy during this spurt and wish I could somehow get all of my projects/blog work/freelance pieces done during this time.
  2. I once interviewed Morgan Freeman over the phone and still have a recording of his voice. It’s exactly how you’d imagine!
  3. My three cousins, sister, and I all attended the same high school (from 1998-2015!), and I was the only one to not participate in track/cross country. The summer before my freshman year of high school, I was determined to be a runner like everyone else, and my mom would drive me to the high school track so that I could run every morning before the season started. But soon I realized that I just couldn’t hack it (though I’m sure the DC humidity certainly didn’t help!) and actually ended up being a “techie” (who assists with theater/other productions) that year instead…building sets didn’t end up being my thing either, although maybe part of me enjoyed the DIY component?! I was also terrible at math and science growing up (which is funny because my degree is technically a Master of Science…) and always took the bare minimum in both of those subjects…to this day, I still haven’t taken calculus!
  4. I’ll rarely ever eat unhealthy food the same day that I take a workout class that I paid for (unless I already have plans to attend a party or event where I know there will be good stuff!). I have a weird thing about wanting to get my “money’s worth” all day long and not undo my workout with a treat…but the next day is a blank slate! 😉
  5. Almost all of my close friends from growing up had moved or transferred schools by the time we were in 7th or 8th grade, and I was also really, really shy in high school. So meeting my group of college friends and having everyone live nearby for four years (and continuing to stay in touch with one another) was a very welcome change! My two closest friends from high school and I have tons of hilarious memories, though. Both are starting grad school this fall for their master’s in public health degrees, and it’s making me want to go back (though not for that–see above, ha!).
  6. I majored in sociology in college after taking the intro class on a whim during my freshman year. My major was very small (I think there were 12 or so people from my year in the department) and it was an awesome, tight-knit group of people. We definitely bonded over weird assignments and professors and the dreaded, “So, has anyone found a job yet?” question that our department chair would ask each week during our fall senior seminar.
  7. When I was a freshman in college, my sister, who was 12 at the time, sent me a different letter EVERY day. It was the sweetest thing and I have them all in a box at home (although I was a little mortified at the time about what the people in the mailroom must have thought about my constant mail!)
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FRIDAY FEELS, #10

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I’ve been so bad about writing these lately! I usually schedule my other posts in advance, but I like to keep this series as current as possible, and my Thursday nights (and weeks in general) have been absolutely insane lately (apt hunt + lots of huge work projects and one 12-hour day at my desk last week + working part time–which has been a blast + trying to have a social life/exercise = little time and energy left to blog at the end of the day!). But I also view blogging as a huge creative outlet, so I need to be better at staying in the groove throughout the week.

On my playlist: Like…nothing? Legit I’ve just been zoning out on my commute, haha. I need some new song recs. Send ’em my way, please!

On my nightstand: I’m in between books right now after having just finished a good one (see below), so I’m not sure what I’ll start next! Hoping to get some reading in this weekend, though.

On my mind: I read Option B this week and loved it (longer post coming soon once I finish tying all my thoughts together!). It’s been on my mind for sure, so I’d like to share a longer reflection at some point.

On my wish list: I LOVE this jewelry holder but would probably use it for other stuff (like sunglasses, clutches, etc)…definitely don’t need it, but everyone knows I love campaign-style furniture. 😉

On the agenda: Tonight I’m catching an outdoor movie with a friend, tomorrow I’m grabbing brunch, viewing an apartment, and packing, and Sunday I’m working for just a few hours and hopefully relaxing/reading/working out/etc in between all of that! Hope everyone has a fantastic weekend–it’s really starting to feel like fall, and I can’t wait for seasonal decor, crunchy leaves, pumpkin carving, Halloween parties, and more…’tis the season!

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